I am rather intrigued by this month’s issue of ‘O’ magazine! On the cover, Oprah Winfrey is standing next to her younger self (a photo of her at the age of 21). Inside the issue, she discusses some of the key life lessons that she has learned over the years that she wish she would have known at that time. Oprah shares a formal written letter of advice that she would give herself, and she also features several other notables sharing what they would tell their younger selves as well.
Here are some of the statements featured that stood out to me the most:
“Stay out of your own way.”—Whoopi Goldberg
“Be prepared for how long change might take and how hard it will sometimes be.” –Marian Wright Edelman
“When the time comes to chase your dreams, and it will, they may seem elusive; but know you won’t catch them all at once. Just one challenge at a time.”—Michael J Fox
“If there’s a choice between companionship and anything—especially career—choose companionship. It’s the only thing that has the potential to last…….fame is not acceptance.”—Carrie Fisher
As I read these words of advice and what Oprah had to say, I began to reflect on the state of my mindset at age 21 and my own life journey thus far. I can honestly tell you that at 21 I truly had no idea that the world would evolve into what it is today. Nor did I think that I would go through so many ups and downs, hills and valleys. There is so much that I know now that I truly wish I had known back then—it would have saved me a tremendous amount of heartache!
me at age 21 🙂
So then I thought, “Out of the many things that I would say to my younger self, what would be the top three things?” That question took me quite awhile to answer as there is so much; and I wanted to sort through everything to determine what would be the most beneficial and the most important words of advice.
After a great deal of pondering, I came up with the 3 things that I would say:
*Don’t be afraid to ask questions and explore life outside of your usual circles and environment. The world is available to you: the only thing you have to do is try your best.
*Slow down and take your time. Other people’s views, opinions, demands and expectations of you are not what’s important. What’s most important is how YOU feel about you. Never jeopardize that for anything or anyone.
*Planning is extremely important, but know that plans can change. Always prepare yourself for the unexpected.
After I decided these and reviewed them carefully, it occurred to me that the same 3 key words of advice that would have been beneficial to me at age 21 would also be helpful to apply to my life right now. Of course, they would need to be tweaked a little (lol), however not by much.
I decided to take my mini-list of life advice and make little decorative note cards to place all around the areas where I spend most of my time. I figured that it would be a great, non-intrusive way to remind myself not only of how far I have come, but also to be wiser in my journey going forward.
I would like to encourage you to take a moment to think of the 3 most important pieces of advice that you would give your younger self, and see how they measure up to your life’s journey ahead. Create a way to be often reminded of your life lessons: whether it is with notecards like I ones that I made, or by other methods such as setting them as a reminder in your computer or phone’s calendar. You will find that doing so will inspire you along your path to success and happiness.
What are 3 pieces of advice that you would say to your younger self? Share with me below to tell me about it at: email@example.com.
photo credit: oprah.com