Deliverance From Being A Doormat: Reclaim Your Life With 1 Phrase
Sometimes we can desire for people to love us……..to need us…….to appreciate us so badly. Sometimes we invest so much emotion and effort into getting people to see our light and reciprocate the level of energy, dedication, and action that we are giving to them that we will do anything that they want and believe anything that they say.. Reclaim Your Life With 1 Phrase
But they don’t..Reclaim Your Life With 1 Phrase
We wait, and we wait, and we wait; we hope and wish and pray for it to come to pass over and over again. When we do not see results, we begin to give even more on our end. Our conscious starts to whisper that it is us: that we are the problem. It tells us we must be doing something wrong or not doing enough. So then we go into overdrive in hopes that things will change, putting aside our own needs and well-being; and disregarding the confusion, hurt, pain, and exertion that it is causing us on every level..Reclaim Your Life With 1 Phrase
All the while the people we are trying our very best to to please do not even view our efforts as ones that deserve acknowledgement, appreciation, praise, or even respect. Instead, they feel a sense of expectancy and entitlement that makes them believe it is okay to pressure us to do more, and feed us a continuum of lies, deception, and empty promises to be sure we stay around for their ‘use.’
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This, my friends is The Doormat Syndrome: Welcome.
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Becoming a victim to being the Doormat is something that is very easy to fall into, because it is something that does not happen all at once, but instead over duration of time or small stages. And although being a Doormat is something that is easy to spot with others, it can be very difficult to recognize in ourselves.
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So………..if this is us, how can we make it better?
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The bad news is that the behaviors are now set, so the mindset when it comes to being a Doormat for people will be a challenge to change—for both parties. Trust me when I say that there is no communication about it that could take place without conflict, which will eventually lead to feelings of guilt and then a repeating of the same old patterns, which solves nothing.
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Remember: just like the Doormat syndrome took time to develop, it will also take time to dissolve.
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BUT: There is good news
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Deliverance from being the Doormat to people is possible. And the best news is it begins within..Reclaim Your Life With 1 Phrase
We must start with ourselves. Changing our mindset and actions (and being consistent and committed to them) will send a message to people that will speak far louder than any words you could ever say. True deliverance is not an action, but a state of mind and a lifestyle.
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Are you ready to reclaim your life? Here’s how:
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Place these words somewhere that you will see them often. Set reminders in your phone or pop-ups on your computer with these words as the message. Do whatever you need to do to remind yourself to operate in these words all of the time, every day, not matter what—or who—comes your way. I am not saying it will be an easy, but it will definitely be worth it. .Reclaim Your Life With 1 Phrase
In 2013 and beyond, commit yourself to deliverance from the awful Doormat syndrome. Think about it: you have gone through enough and it is time to get your life back! You can do it, and it all begins with you.
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Are you or have you ever been victim of the Doormat syndrome? What are some ways that you plan to commit yourself to reclaiming your life this year? Share with me below or tell me about it at: melisasource@yahoo.com.
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I enjoyed this article. I thinks as wives and mothers we often fall into doormat syndrome. We do so much for everyone else, we do nothing for ourselves. After time passes we realize we have become doormats and look for ways to turn the situation around. Your three words, will start people on the road to ending doormat syndrome.
Greetings Janeane! Thank you so much–and I could not agree with you more. I appreciate you sharing here with me! 🙂
Girl, yes…and what’s crazy is, I was only a doormat to one person! It took me a while to learn to say no and not feel guilty and really get out of the situation. But now I’m free and loving it! The other party sees a new me and has stepped back as well. So learning to put yourself first helps not just you but also the other party (hopefully)…
Is Greetings Kesha! Kudos to you!!! (Yaay!) Isn’t it liberating? And yes all it takes is to see your change in actions. I’m proud of you Lady! ~Thank you so much for sharing your experience here with me. I truly appreciate it! 🙂
MelisaSource, thank you, thank you, thank you. Awesome, awesome, awesome. Wow, was this a valuable less that I had to learn in life. In my classroom, with my students, this was a very big part of my Character Building cirriculum.
Greetings Hanifah! My pleasure! 🙂 I am so happy that this post was one that resonated with you! Thank you so very much for sharing here with me! 🙂
Oh, I most definitely have been a doormat at one point – for almost a year, in fact. It took a while for me to first love myself and a lot of strength to finally quit a workplace where I was not appreciated and I was definitely unwanted. One year on, I feel so free and I have grown so much as an individual.
Greetings jsncruz! Yes: loving yourself first is absolutely important. It can free us from so many things that are hurting us or are not doing us any good. Kudos to you! Thank you so much for sharing here with me! 🙂