Sometimes people can be negative while communicating in relationships without even knowing it. It’s done so often that it becomes second nature. But that doesn’t mean that it is right.

 

Whether it’s a family member or friend, coworker or classmate, having to point out to someone that they always seem to find negative in everything—or having them point out to you that you always seem to find negative in everything—can be very stressful. What’s worse is the ever-presence on complaining can stunt a relationship’s growth. It can even rip it completely apart.

 How To Stop Complaining In Relationships

So what can you do to if you discover that you are the culprit, and that every word spoken from your mouth is a gripe about something?

How To Stop Complaining In Relationships

Here are some methods you can try:

How To Stop Complaining In Relationships

Acknowledge That You Have Flaws Too

The other person may not be perfect. But guess what: neither are you. There may be some traits, habits, or actions of yours that they are not comfortable with as well. All are human, and although change for the better is good, forced change solely for the satisfaction of others is not. You wouldn’t do it, and you should not expect anyone else to do so either. Keeping that in mind on a continuous basis will help you to remember to always fully accept the other person: flaws and all. It will also make for a more peaceful relationship.

 How To Stop Complaining In Relationships

Acknowledge Your Right (and theirs) To Remain Silent

If something that the other person does irks you, angers you, or gets to your nerves, just stay silent if you cannot express your concerns without coming off as complaining. Wait until you have calmed completely down before addressing the matter. In your silence, reflect on whether the matter is as serious as you originally viewed it to be. The real answer may surprise you.

Also remember that when you are ready to talk about it, they have the same right to be silent as you do if their emotions are high. In some cases, remaining silent until calmer heads prevail is the best—or only—way to keep the relationship intact.

How To Stop Complaining In Relationships

Acknowledge When It’s Time To Move On

If the complaining becomes excessive or too much to handle on either end, it may be a signal that it’s time to take further action. A third party may be needed in the picture for some serious conflict resolution. If that fails or if that is not an option, it may just be time to set distances and boundaries, or end the relationship altogether if possible.

How To Stop Complaining In Relationships

No type of relationship should consist of constant complaining. Once you realize that it is happening from either you or the other person, start taking steps to put a stop to it right away. Do so not only for the sake of your relationship, but also for the sake of your happiness and inner peace.

How To Stop Complaining In Relationships

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Do you experience what seems to be constant complaining in a relationship that you have with someone? Are you the complainer, or is it the other person? What methods are you using right now to deal with it? Share with me below or tell me about it at: melisasource@yahoo.com.

How To Stop Complaining In Relationships